A Redditor is taking care of her grandmother since the mother doesn’t want to help. The Redditor has taken on an admirable, selfless role, but she shouldn’t completely pause her life.

Jr.'s parent divorced when he was 5. Weekdays were hard for him, but he found relief on the weekends when he visited his grandmother in the suburbs outside Cleveland, Ohio.

In today's Asking Eric column, R. Eric Thomas responds to a grandparent that wants to help their shy granddaughter feel more comfortable.

That way, the grandmother can take care of herself to some degree. She’ll still need help, but any amount of independence is better than none at all. It’s not easy to take care of an aging parent.