"It's when we go through these things, I guess, when we learn the most about ourselves, and maybe even some growth," said Andy Lassner Benjamin VanHoose is a Staff Editor on the Movies team at PEOPLE.

Lassner's social media posts come as Holker, 36, released her somewhat controversial new book, This Far: My Story of Love, Loss, and Embracing the Light, on Tuesday. Former 'Ellen' Producer Andy ...